Id, ego and superego.
Although these three expressions refer only to symbolic conception of our psyche, this tripartite model of our inner psychology, thought of by Sigmund Freud, shows how the Id and Superego influence and finally define who we are-the Ego.
This part of our psyche refers to purely instinctive parts of our personality. It is structured by two instincts, to which we refer to as Eros and Thanatos. Eros is the sex instinct and contains the libido and Thanatos the death instinct. Whats interesting is that our initial, new-born personality is the Id, and only later the Ego and Superego are developed. The Id works like a baby-it wants to be immediately gratified by pleasure, like food or sleep. Only thanks to the balance of the Superego, we don’t behave like a bunch of primitive Neanderthals driven by their inner drives.
This part of our psyche balances the Id. It is all the education inherited from the parents, the society, the peers. It contains all the codes of conduct and directs us on how to behave and what is acceptable and what is not. It only develops from age of 3-5 and remains the contrary to the natural and innate nature of the Id. The Superego is built upon the conscience and the ideal self. Conscience punishes the ego when we act against the will and conduct of society-consider the betrayal in a relationship. It is somehow like superego punishes the Ego-The “I”, when we let our inner drives control us. The ideal self shows how we should be with regard to functioning in the society and fulfilling our ambitions. This is why we get gratified by the feeling of pride when the ambition is realized. The period when the Superego is formed is therefore crucial on the well-being of a person throughout all his life. Overambitious parents can influence it in such a way that a person will never feel realization and fulfilment.
The Ego is the balance between the former two parts of the psyche and their outcome and constitutes who we actually are. It operates in a reasonable way and makes its way to satisfying the demands of the Superego and Id at the same time. It it fails in one of the domains, the outcome is a socially unacceptable behavior like the lack of etiquette. The Ego is highly realistic and problem-solving and when it doesn’t do its job properly, the anxiety appears. Many types of those and other deviations can be explained by the inability of ego of satisfying both the Superego and the Id. Hence, one can see the importance of one’s development during the early childhood in defining who the person is in his latter life.